What is a Calm Down Basket/Box?
We all experience moments when we feel stressed, overwhelmed or dysregulated – these feelings are completely normal, all be them unpleasant! A calm down box is a wonderful tool designed to help children (or even adults) manage their emotions, regulate their bodies and minds and build resilience in moments of stress.
A calm down box is a special place that holds your child’s (or your own) favourite items, specifically chosen to aid in self-regulation. These items help to restore balance by grounding the senses – whether through touch, smell, sight, sound or practicing breathing techniques.
The Golden Rules of a Calm Down Box:
- Choose items that are liked and age-appropriate: Make sure the contents are things your child (or you) will enjoy using.
- Avoid screen-time items: Calm down boxes should not include screens like iPads or gaming devices.
- Encourage independent play: The purpose of a calm down box is to (eventually) help children self-regulate on their own, so it’s important that the contents promote independent interaction.
- Model how to use it: If your child is new to using a calm down box, you may need to show them how to engage with the items inside, especially during moments of big emotions (some children will need a longer period of time co-regulating and it is important we support them, so they can eventually self-regulate).
What to Include in a Calm Down Box:
If you’re wondering what to add, consider items that encourage repetitive motions or sensory experiences, such as spinning, clicking or rolling. These activities can help children focus and calm their minds. Toys with different textures, sounds and scents can be particularly effective in distracting from overwhelming emotions, helping children refocus and regain a sense of calm.
What is a Sensory Break?
A sensory break is a short, intentional pause from regular activities to engage in calming sensory experiences. These breaks are not just for times of stress; they can also be used when a child is feeling calm or happy. The purpose is to teach children valuable self-regulation tools that they can later use during moments of frustration or upset.
The Benefits of a Calm Down Box and Sensory Breaks:
A calm down box and sensory breaks offer many benefits, such as:
- Increased mindfulness: Helping children become more aware of their emotional and physical states.
- Reduced stress and anxiety: Sensory activities can reduce the impact of stress and encourage relaxation.
- Improved emotional regulation: Children learn to better manage their emotions, even in challenging situations.
- Enhanced self-awareness: Through regular practice, children become more in tune with their emotions and how to manage them.
When we engage with our senses, such as through touch or smell, we activate the parasympathetic nervous system (PNS) – the body’s natural calming response. This response counteracts the “fight or flight” instinct, reducing heart rate, blood pressure and muscle tension. Sensory breaks also help distract the brain from anxious thoughts, redirecting focus to more calming and restorative experiences.
A Reminder:
Younger children may need support and guidance from adults to effectively use their calm down boxes, especially during moments of strong emotions, distress, or dysregulation. It’s important to be patient, offer gentle guidance and make it a practice that encourages emotional growth and resilience.
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