Small words. Big impact.
In early years, the way we speak to children shapes how they speak to themselves. Resilience doesn’t come from perfection – it grows from trying, failing, feeling and trying again… with adult-led support.
Here are a few everyday phrases that plant those seeds:
1. “I can see you’re finding this tricky – and that’s okay.”
This validates their experience while keeping the door open for growth.
2. “Let’s try together first.”
Support before independence shows we’re on their team.
3. “You don’t have to get it right the first time.”
Normalise struggle – it’s where the learning lives (where possible, be relatable e.g. “I couldn’t do my zip at first either”
4. “I saw how hard you tried” – not just focusing on the outcome.
Praising effort teaches children to value the process, not just the product, as well as building confidence and motivation.
5. “You’re safe. I’m here.”
Because when big feelings come, safety is the first step.
It’s not about getting it perfect – none of us are! However, it’s about being intentional, consistent and kind because Young Ones deserve the patience, care and respect that helps them feel seen and safe every day.
Guiding The Young Ones 
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